To give shape and meaning to how I will lead and relate to others, these are a few of the hills I’m willing to die on:

1. Feelings are never right or wrong, they just are
2. People behave the way they feel
3. Primary emotion is compelling
4. Healing never happens in silence
5. Voicing pain is never as bad as causing that pain
6. Effect is at least as significant as intention
7. Denying feelings harms people
8. Everything in relationship is 50/50
9. Shaming others is the worst possible way to effect change

10. If I tell you “I’m not hurting you” and your response is “yes, you are,” only one of us is correct (and it’s not me)